Myth Two: “If we’re meant to be, it will happen.”
I can hear you snorting. You’re thinking “No one believes that.”
Okay, so maybe you don’t say “Fate will take care of itself.” Maybe what you do say is “Why should I [enroll in a cooking class, learn to swing dance, go wine tasting, or any other activity friends and family have suggested that I do in order to meet women]? If she’s right for me our paths will cross naturally.”
This is the same thing as saying “If we’re meant to be, it will happen.”
Also, about your paths and them naturally crossing? Well, they haven’t so far.
What this belief is really about, of course, is not Destiny or Divine Providence.
It’s about having an excuse not to do anything different in your life.
I can hear your wounded ego repeating to itself “But I am good enough as I am. I am good enough as I am.” To admit that you need to do something different does not mean you’re not good enough as you are. (Except, of course, you’re not. Get over it.) And it does not mean your whole life to this point has been wrong. (But you are wrong about some things.) Being proud of being a geek is great. Loving your hobbies and not being ashamed of role playing, buying computer programming manuals for your light summer reading and watching sci-fi is as it should be.
But being a socially well-adapted person and being a geek are not mutually exclusive. It is not a moral stand to refuse to deign to keep abreast of mainstream culture. Nor is it a stand on principle to wear ugly, out-of-fashion eyeglasses. You have an unusual position in culture. You can take the best of geek culture and the best of mainstream society and blend the two to become the ideal High-Functioning Geek.
The advice: Take the damn cooking class your mom has been bugging you about.
Next up: Myth 3, “Someone Really Cool Will Want to Date Me.”