Myth Three: “Someone really cool will want to date me”
The hip goth chick you keep seeing at your friend’s parties. The hot twenty-two year old barista. Kate Beckinsale.
You see, I say it to myself too. Maybe Clive Owen would want to date me if he got to know me. I’m smart, funny (usually unintentionally but he won’t have to know that), and while I’m not usually the prettiest woman in the room (unless I’m the only female there), I’m also not usually the ugliest woman in the room (unless I’m the only female there). But he probably wouldn’t date me.
The reason is twofold. First, Clive Owen is better than me. He is richer, more talented and better looking. Also cooler. I have nothing to offer him that he cares about. So be it.
Second--make note of this--Clive Owen probably doesn’t ultimately have anything to offer me that I truly care about. Except the money. And the fame. And the increase to my cool factor. But let’s put that aside…
The hot barista is unimpressed with your memorization of a hundred digits of pi. The goth chick doesn’t want to talk about Nova speculations on how the world will end. Tricia Helfer isn’t interested in how the social dynamics of your Wednesday night game group are a microcosm of what’s wrong in the world.
The reality is those women don’t have anything going for them that makes them a good match for you. Their intellect doesn’t match yours. Their idea of a great weekend is nothing akin to your idea. These women you find yourself attracted to are all surface or too into following the antics of the Famous and Pathetic or simply interested in things you’re not.
The advice: Face it. You will never be cooler than you are right now.
And you’re not so bad. You‘re reading this blog.
Up next: “My life will be perfect when I am with someone.”